Project Getting Along

What is Project Getting Along?

It is a research project done by researchers at Vanderbilt University who want to learn more about how often bullying happens and how it effects kids.

What we do:

Students: Fill out questionnaires at school asking how often they get picked on, who gets picked on in their class, relationships in their family and what they think and feel lately.

Parents: Kids bring home questionnaires for parents to fill out about the child.

Teachers: Mark which students on their homeroom class list are picked on by other kids at school.

All information is kept private and stored in our offices at Vanderbilt.

Who we are:

Principal Investigators:

David Cole, Ph.D. (615) 343-8712
Tammy Dukewich, Ph.D. (615) 322-7207

Project Coordinators:
Sarah Bilsky and Elizabeth Will (615) 322-7207

Where we are:

We are in the Department of Psychology and Human Development at Vanderbilt University.

Participating Schools

Dan Mills Elementary
Eakin Elementary
Hickman Elementary
Ruby Major Elementary
Bellevue Middle
Isaac Litton Middle
DuPont Tyler Middle
J.T. Moore Middle
West End Middle


Educate – Explain that bullying is more than physical; it can be done in person or over the phone or computer.

Communicate – Talk to your child and listen to what they say about friends and other kids. If they say they are being bullied, listen, tell them it’s wrong, it’s not their fault and you‘re glad they had the courage to tell you.

Encourage – Doing what child your child is interested in may help your child to be more confident among their peers and make friends with other kids with similar interests.

Get involved -Teach your child to take a stand against bullying. Find out what is going on in your child’s school by visiting the school website and talking with teachers, counselors, and/or principal.

Be persistent – Bullying does not stop overnight. Follow up by talking to your child and their teachers.

Keep track – Work with your child to keep a record of bullying, including date, time, place and who was involved.
Help your child develop ways to handle bullying. Talk about whom they should go to for help and that they should not be afraid to tell an adult about bullying. Give suggestions for ways to respond to bullying, and help them practice so your child feels more confident. These strategies include:

  • Speak up against bullying. Say “stop it.”
  • Walk away if the child doing the bullying is trying to get a reaction.
  • Tell an adult you trust. Ask for advice.
  • Stay with a group of other kids

Pay attention to other possible problems your child may be having. This may include changes in friends, changes in mood, or avoiding school. For other things to look for go to:


Do NOT tell your child to ignore bullying. Your child may “hear” that you are going to ignore it or do not take them seriously.

Do NOT encourage your child to harm the person who is bullying them. It could get your child hurt, suspended, or expelled.

Do NOT contact the parents of the student(s) who bullied your child. School officials should contact the parents of the children involved.

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